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Surrender

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Surrender

True change only comes when we surrender . It's something we resist because it's associated with failure and defeat. We also naturally protect ourselves from the grief that goes along with it at first. To surrender we must give up. We have to admit that we can't change what happened, or how we reacted, or how someone else dealt with something ...or didn't. We now look at the writing on the wall, accepting it, then base our next decisions on that reality. Denial says it didn't happen, or won't discuss it. Bargaining says, "but if " or "what if" and is disappointed when the "if " doesn't happen or doesn't turn out the way they thought. Bargaining spends a lot of time strategising, worrying, controlling and is exhausting. At some point you must give up and surrender.

At this time of year surrendering can be really hard with so many manufactured images of a perfect family or perfect children, as well as perfect thoughtfulness, altruism and romantic love. Think right now of something that typically happens every year around this time to you as a pattern or in connection to your family etc. Maybe every year you break your head to find a gift that will finally touch a loved one's heart...get them to open up more so you can be close again, or repair some aspect between you. You've tried for many years and nothing is having this effect. What do you typically feel about this? You may have adopted an acceptance that you'll give to them for your own pleasure of giving without expecting them to change. More often though, you withdraw and feel hurt in a situation like that. Some people easily decide to stop giving gifts to this person and back off. Others will try even harder next year.

Surrender in a situation like this would mean giving up on the struggle to please, save or touch this person. It may mean accepting that there's a limit to their capacity to connect, react or show appreciation for you. You let go and stop those actions ....that feeling of pushing and striving dissipates. You are relieved. You see this person for who they are not as you would like them to be. You make a decision based on thinking, "How do I need to make a change so that I am loving to myself in this situation" and you do it.

You are surrendering your struggle - you are also surrendering the outcome! This is the scariest part. You are in effect saying " I have no idea or control over how my action of loving myself will affect this person, myself and the people around us." It will have an effect - trust me. It may surprise you for better or worse, but in your own heart and soul you will be liberated by your decision to love yourself instead of being externally focused on pleasing. I believe - I know - that when you act in alignment with love for yourself you will act with courage and integrity, and even though people don't like ti when we change the rules, they will be given an opportunity to heal themselves in reaction to your action.

I realize this is difficult to do around the holidays, but it is also the most potent time to face these issues because of the heightened glamorizing of relationships and material comforts. So if you find yourself in a trying situation, or catch yourself in a pattern you no longer like in your life, go sit somewhere and say I love you to yourself....over and over until you calm down. Then say, " I surrender...the situation is in higher hands than my own."



Happy New Year Folks !

Well I haven't been here in a while !
Lots has changed in my own path to some sort of clarity.
I will be posting much more often in the new year .
I like to rant about things.
Some people don't consider ranting to be very spiritual, but I said ranting not bitching ;) Everyone needs to vent.
Many of the things I rant about are still ethics and spiritually related subjects....things I don't allow myself to share so much in the newsletter, because they're there to help inspire you.
But in this bog I want to get things off my chest a bit.
Let you get to know me so it de-mystifies my tribe of healers/ mediums etc.
We are also humans :)

Namaste

Talk to you soon

Catharine Allan

Healing Coach

We all want to thrive. This means not just surviving or coping. It means living and creating. It means you are at your potential and loving it!

I belief we all can get to this level of living, and it takes healing the old wounds, distorted thinking, and retrieving our essence. From there we can take the action necessary to build that life.

Of course this isn't that easy depending on what kind of childhood and life experiences we have had.

I know that healing requires courage. It often requires letting go of things that are very difficult for us. It requires the ability to confront ourselves and to tell ourselves the truth of how we feel. It takes inventory of our qualities in such a way that we are aware of our good points, and of our shadow.

To begin the Healing Coaching we reach inside for that truth. Most of us will come to a coach or therapist when life has become too overwhelming in the present. There is such a build up of undigested experience, and the strategies we are using to cope with the aspects of our lives causing stress in the present are now breaking down.

The answer to the current stress is rarely related to present circumstances. We begin with alleviating the present by talking, energy healing, body work, self awareness exercises, increasing our creativity, and implement practical strategies so we can reach the healing place . That healing place is the sensation inside where we feel grounded, real, breathing in and out, having perspective again and now having control over our present choices. From this arises the space for the older wounds - be they from this life, or a past life - to emerge for our understanding, to be healed so we may thrive!

For consultations you can email me at river.rain.catharine@gmail.com